Over-givers don’t “help too much.”
They don’t “care too deeply.”
They don’t “say yes too often.”

Over-giving is not a personality flaw.
It’s a survival strategy your nervous system built years ago — often long before you realised you were doing it.

If you give more than you have, emotionally or physically, it’s because somewhere in your life you learned that:

• safety comes from being useful

• love comes from being reliable

• belonging comes from being the strong one

• chaos calms when you manage everything

• your needs are secondary

• the people around you matter more

• collapse isn’t allowed

• rest is suspicious

• you must hold yourself together so others don’t fall apart

Your body has been carrying this alone for years.

You don’t need to keep doing it.

Over-giving isn’t kindness — it’s compulsion.

It looks like generosity, but inside it feels like:

• constant emotional responsibility

• being the person everyone turns to

• absorbing stress from others

• carrying guilt when you rest

• managing other people’s moods

• feeling like everything falls apart without you

• saying “I’m fine” on autopilot

• feeling invisible in your own life

• collapsing in private

• smiling in public

• chronic exhaustion

• resentment mixed with shame

• never fully breathing out

Educators know this pattern intimately.
At home or in schools, over-giving is often the identity we’re praised for — until it breaks us.

Over-giving is not dramatic.
It’s quiet.
It’s subtle.
It disguises itself as competence.

It looks like:

• saying yes even when you're drowning

• being the “strong one” in every setting

• remembering birthdays, deadlines, crises — for everyone

• doing three people’s work because it’s “easier than asking”

• feeling guilty when you prioritise yourself

• carrying the emotional temperature of the room

• feeling responsible for other people’s wellbeing

• collapsing only when you’re alone

• craving rest but panicking when you actually stop

• giving until resentment builds — then feeling ashamed of it

If this feels uncomfortably familiar, nothing is wrong with you.
Your nervous system is running an old programme.

This isn’t “self-care.”
This isn’t “just say no.”
This isn’t mindset coaching.

This is nervous-system-first, trauma-aware identity work for women who’ve spent their lives over-giving.

We use the Deeply Wellbeing Method™ — a four-phase process that supports you to:

• see where your over-giver identity was formed (REMEMBER)

• gently release the emotional armour you’ve carried (UNHOLD)

• rewrite the internal rules that keep you disappearing (UNLEARN)

• reclaim a life that doesn’t rely on self-sacrifice (RECLAIM)

This work is slow, steady, and deeply restorative.

It’s not overwhelming.
It’s not intense.
It’s not pressure-based.

It’s the opposite of how you’ve lived.

1. 1:1 Over-Giver Recovery Sessions — £60

A gentle starting point for nervous-system regulation and emotional grounding.

2. 1:1 Deep Restoration Programme — 12 Weeks - £720

Comprehensive identity and nervous-system work for long-term change.

3. The Over-Giver Reset — 6 Weeks (Cabin Group) £180

A small, intimate group for those ready for deep, supported transformation.

4. For Educators Who Over-Give

Trauma-aware CPD, staff circles, and leadership burnout support.

You’re not dramatic.
You’re not too sensitive.
You’re not weak.
You’re not “bad at boundaries.”
You’re not selfish for wanting rest.
You’re not failing when you collapse.
You’re not asking for too much.
You’re not the one who should “cope better.”

You are a woman with a nervous system that learned to survive by giving.

That is not your fault.
And it is entirely changeable.